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Kate Spade (Anxiety and Depression)

Friends and loved ones are asking themselves .... How could this have happened to this wonderfully gifted individual? What did we do wrong and how did we miss the signs of her pending suicide? Is there something we did that triggered such an outcome???

Her loved ones are saying .....

We loved her so deeply and cared for her at every turn.  We helped her when she needed help.  We covered for her when she was unable to cover for herself.  We heard her pleas for help and assisted by escorting her to therapy. We helped her keep track of the medications she was prescribed.  And ... we watched her at every turn, looking for signs that she might be at risk and do something like this. If she even hinted at such an occurrence ... we watched even closer.  Any variation in her behavior immediately set off alarms which caused us to attend to her that much more closely ..... We made every effort to let her know we needed her and the deepness of our love for her.  We emphasized just how important she was to us and others .... and how she just could not simply leave us behind if she were to escape suddenly by her hand.

And yet, here we are  ...  suffering grief by the loss of her. What could we have done to stop this???  ... Unfortunately, not much at all.

All of the above was from the outside of her existence .... what she struggled with was something deep inside of her. The anxiety and depression she was suffering during a significant portion of her life played a key role in her ultimately committing suicide.

Very little could be done on the outside by those who loved her in order to douse the flames burning her from the inside out.

My heart goes out to those who where a part of her intimate world and tried so hard to save her.

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